SUSAN RAY, LMFT--WINDWARD THERAPY
I am a licensed therapist with 28 years of experience in working with individuals, couples and families. I specialize in depression and anxiety disorders, and couple and family therapy. My treatment approach is client centered and geared towards gaining fast yet effective results, by working "with you", and loved ones as needed/desired. Together we will develop a plan that will involve psychotherapy and personal treatment goals built around activities, places, loved ones and things that you enjoy, or used to enjoy doing individually or together as a couple or family.
When working with individuals, I will support and guide you each step of the way in your desire to have a happier life. Establishing hope is our first step, and the development of a plan can really help you feel like you are gaining back the control of your life, and it's unique situations. Just knowing that you have a plan and are on your way to feeling better is very encouraging and healing in itself. Life throws us challanges, sometimes huge ones, and/or several at a time. When this happens, it can make the strongest of us need to push our "reset button" and adjust to the new challanges with new and healthy ways of coping. Traumatic changes such as a loss of a loved one, loss of career dreams, or divorce or harsh breakups, relocations, and addictions...... are not easy things to deal with. Having extra support during these times is usually very beneficial and can help start the healing process.
My marriage/couple counseling and family therapy approach is experiential in nature, yet solution focused. This means that I believe that unexpressed emotions can build, and often times need to be processed between a couple, our within a family for healing to start to begin. Once these pent up emotions are expressed and heard and understood better from the other persons perspectice, then we can move on to setting new and improved ways to communicate to come up with solutions to innitiate positive change. We will take each persons feelings into account and learn how to mend broken communication and dysfunctional communication patterns that have developed over time. In couple and family work, I pride myself on being very neutral, and dont take sides. Instead I feel that "the problem(s)" are never just one person's fault. Usually negative patterns can imerge when we feel hurt, or neglected, and dont express these feelings. What then can happen is the feelings and reactions can spiral out of control on their own through time if not expressed. Often times, huge dysfunctional patterns and negative behavior can immerge from relatively small things and inaccurate assumptions that may not even be true, but simply misunderstandings that were never cleared up. However, if these assumptions are believed to be true, the reaction to them will be misread by the first party, and thus the steady downward spiral starts.